Time flies when you’re raising children…

Sitting at dinner the other night, and we were talking about how fast this year has gone by.

It could be because of COVID, and most of our year was “wasted” by “quarantine” or simply because our littles aren’t so little anymore and they are growing SO fast!

It’s hard to sit back some time and REALLY enjoy these little moments.

I’m not going to lie, I had a mini breakdown last week. Full blown toddler tantrum…

I finally had some time off of work, to enjoy my 10 year wedding anniversary (holy shit, how has it been 10 years?!).

Day 1 of vacation and I start getting texts from work (I can’t get away from this place). I really wanted to get away for the big decade anniversary, but let’s face it, two kids and a global pandemic later, and no one has the time or money for that shit!

To top it all off, my kids we’re making me INSANE with their constant arguing and pestering about every… little… thing!!!

I finally broke down, and LITERALLY called my mama crying!

She talked me down, and we laughed and cried. Finally she asked me if I remembered going to my aunts house for the weekend every other month or so… because she too had the same moments I had. Every mom, or dad, NEEDS time to be an adult, and enjoy alone time wether it’s with a spouse or by yourself.

Then she said, get yourself a Starbucks (or whatever over priced coffee you like), get home, and get on with your day because you are going to remember the time spent with your family, more then you’ll remember this breakdown.

That women was so right! We had an AMAZING day exploring Frankenmuth, MI (see picture below)!

Then on our ACTUAL anniversary, we shipped the kids to my hubs mom’s house for the night, we ordered take out, and watched ALL the bad TV we could fit into the 16 hours we had ALONE!!!


ANYWAYS, Back to my original thought about how FAST time is moving… I just wanted to share that story because it was raw and real, and it is not all sunshine and rainbows here!

I am in the trenches of motherhood. I am at war with myself because these are their most formative years, and I want to make sure they look back on their childhood and say, ‘wow, I was respectful and respected, but we also had a GREAT childhood.’

I’m definitely not one to give advice. You will not see me at any baby shower telling that new mama-to-be how she should only breastfeed, and use cloth diapers because it’s better for the environment, etc.

However, I’m passing along advice from my mama who raised 6 kids…

“Take time for yourself. It is one thing to be so in love with your child and do everything for the baby, but you have to not lose sight of yourself as a woman to balance out motherhood.”

Sounds simple right?!

But how many days have gone by since you’ve last taken care of YOU?!

Let’s just try harder. Every day is a new day for growth and opportunity.

You hear it all the time, “self care”, but do you really do it?!

WOW! How many cliches can I put into one blog?! 😂

But, thanks for hearing my heart! ❤️

Amanda (the boss bitch that keeps me motivated) and I, want to do a Q&A with all our readers! So if you have a question for us, leave it in the comments below!


17 responses to “Time flies when you’re raising children…”

  1. Archana Yadav Avatar
    Archana Yadav

    Nice post. Enjoyed reading it. It really important to spend sometime for ourself.


    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thanks for readings ❤️


  2. brittshedhappens Avatar

    Beautiful advice and SO true. We don’t have kids – however, I enjoy being ‘that aunt’ and I will happily take my nieces and nephews when I can in order to give their parents some ‘adult time’. For example, the last time I was up visiting my brother and sister-in-law, I had a movie night with my nieces so that they could go out for dinner and enjoy a ‘date night’. It may not be a lot of time, but it’s better than nothing. They need that time together!


    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      We love “those aunts”! You rock for given that mama & dad some alone time!!! ❤️❤️❤️


  3. Beryl Avatar

    Such a good reminder. My little one is only 4 months old but I already can’t believe he’ll never be a tiny newborn any more. Thanks for sharing that vulnerable moment, I’ve totally been there!


    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      It’s so sad, but also so exciting!


  4. nianni Avatar

    Nice post, I liked the little story you told. It’s nice to give your all to your children but you shouldn’t lose yourself. Nice one.


    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you! ❤️


  5. Pea Green Avatar

    Your mom is a wise lady. My grandma says “don’t wish your life away”. Also wonderful advice.


    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      That is wonderful advice!


  6. Jaya Avendel Avatar

    Time does indeed fly by, and sometimes we just need that bit of time to ourselves. Love that you went out and spent a night watch films. Sometimes, while we love our kids, we need some time to ourselves too. The words you share from your mum are beautiful. 🙂


    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you so much! ❤️

      Liked by 1 person

  7. Nathalie Avatar

    Thanks for keeping it real Melissa. Motherhood is no joke!!


  8. Sarah Avatar

    I love Frankenmuth! I’m glad you guys got a little alone time for your anniversary. It is MUCH needed for parents.


    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Me too! It was great! 💕


  9. momcrafty Avatar

    Aww, glad your Mom helped you out there. I’ve definitely found I need a little space for me every so often since covid began. It usually involves an overpriced coffee too.


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