Why Are We So Quick To Compare Ourselves To Others?

Every morning when I sip my coffee I take some time alone to scroll through Instagram.

It’s maybe been ten seconds and I find myself scrunching up my nose and whispering, “how does she get her baby to sleep 12 hours every single night!?”

Or, “How in the world does this mom of three look put together every day when as a mom of one, I struggle to just blow dry my hair most days?”

I know I am not alone in this world of comparing and criticizing ourselves.

It’s just human nature.

No matter how much we talk about it though, why is there such a craving to still show only the glamourous on social media?

You never see the dark circles from night time feedings, from bad dreams that meant a night with a shared bed or just from no sleep at all because your mind won’t shut off.

You only see the beautiful hair, not the Ms. Trunchbull buns you know we all rock at least a couple times a week.

The unworthiness and the just not good enough comes on strong, and it lasts long as well.

We are all so unique though, and I think that’s an important thing to remember when you are a woman and a mom.

Sure, the girl you knew in High School might have a fabulous kitchen and the latest home upgrades, but she might not have the awesome cooking skills to utilize that wonderful kitchen like you do.

And yes, the mom who’s baby sleeps 12 hours each night is beyond lucky, but she also doesn’t get those 3am snuggles that even though you are dead tired, you cherish those snuggles with your baby.

Everyone has different strengths and your mind is one of them and maybe even the most important. Think of the positives in your life when you find yourself jealous of a positive in someone else’s life. The uniqueness that makes you, you.

I am just as guilty as anyone else when it comes to comparing myself to others, it’s a habit that sure is hard to break.

Instead of feeling sorry for myself or being jealous, I am going to try to better the areas in my life that have me feeling that way.

So next time you see those flawless Instagram pics, give yourself a break and remember what you bring to the table.

Don’t be so quick to compare and know that you are enough.

You are valued, and you are just as worthy!

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36 responses to “Why Are We So Quick To Compare Ourselves To Others?”

  1. Brooke Avatar
    Brooke

    So true! I love how you point out that the moms who have babies sleep all night miss out on the 3am snuggles. My daughter just asked me this weekend what I miss most about having my kids as babies, and I said rocking them and feeding them in the middle of the night. It was exhausting but the deep love makes it all worth it.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yess! I feel like I’m going to miss that as well! Even though it’s exhausting, snuggles are the best!

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  2. Abby Avatar

    This is a good reminder that we’re all uniquely made and should be thankful for who we are. I try not to take social media seriously because like you stated, it’s not a true picture of people’s real lives. I take social media breaks and delete my apps occasionally to make sure I focus time of myself and not others.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yess! Same. I just took a break this past weekend and it felt so wonderful! You feel way more refreshed for sure. Thanks for reading 😊

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      1. Abby Avatar

        So true! My Pleasure!

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  3. Kate Busaka Avatar

    This is absolutely glorious! Yes, yes, yes. Thank you for writing this. I think there are so many people that need to hear it, we all do from time to time. If we can learn to celebrate others in the understanding that what they are showing are their successes and in the knowing that there is so much going on with each of it both good and bad we will all feel much more content. Thanks again – this is authentic, needed and beautiful xx

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you so much! Everything you said is so true and I hope we can encourage more to see this! Your feedback means so make, thank you for reading! 🙂

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  4. critchie805 Avatar
    critchie805

    Thank you thank you thank you. I needed this today. Just yesterday I was lamenting to my boyfriend of all the people I was comparing myself to. He said, “I want the old Carista back. None of this is true.” But I need constant reminders. It’s so good to remember that Instagram is a highlight reel and everything we wish we had means that we would miss out on something we already have. Thank you.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Been there and done that many times to my husband! You are defiantly not alone in comparing yourself others! It’s so hard not to but we need to remember the amazing qualities we have too!! Most of the ones we compare ourselves to only show their best side! Thank you so much for reading and I am so happy I could help!

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  5. Corinne Avatar

    Great post and to answer your question/blog title, “I’m not really sure.” I found that social media is a huge, huge trigger for comparison, so I don’t participate much on social media now and just mind my own business. It’s not always possible to avoid triggers because you may bump into someone at the shops and you inadvertently compare lives and whatnot. But when I get home, I often remind myself that the only person I should compare with is me.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Such an honest answer! I’ve been trying to take social media breaks as much as I can lately and it’s helping with not comparing as much but you are so right. Thank you so much for reading 🙂

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  6. smallgirlbigworld Avatar

    I love this as it reminds us that we all have our strengths and things to grow on. It is so easy to criticise ourselves but this piece is a good push to look at the bigger picture. Well written 😊

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes! Exactly 😊 thank you so much for reading!

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  7. Fadima Mooneira Avatar

    Good post! I agree with everything you said. We should not compare ourselves with others. We are awesome just the way we are.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes we are!! Thank you so much for reading 🙂

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  8. gemmyloulou Avatar
    gemmyloulou

    I love it because I feel it. I know exactly what you mean. If only we used our social platforms to spread the messy, unattractive truth and not the glamourised, filtered us that we wish we could be 24/7 xx

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes! I agree!! Defiantly need to share more of the ugly truth. Thanks so much for reading 🙂

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  9. kellyanngegg Avatar

    Love this! Though, I must say, I’m with you in terms of scrolling through IG and being like, SERIOUSLY HOW IS SHE SO GLAMOROUS?! I don’t ever try for my pics though lol if that makes sense. My hair is in a bun 24/7 and my kids ask me if something’s wrong if my hair’s down or if I put on jeans instead of sweatpants LOL. I don’t see the point in trying to look good for anyone but me. 😉 Great post girl!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Sameeeee! Hahah. I curled my hair the other day and my husband came home and asked where I was going 😂. Thank you so much for reading!!

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      1. kellyanngegg Avatar

        Hahaah, ohhh husbands LOLOL!! 🙂 You’re welcome! I’m looking forward to seeing more of your stuff!! 🙂

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      2. quirkymoms486 Avatar

        Thank you! I’m looking forward to reading yours as well!

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  10. fluxingwell Avatar
    fluxingwell

    So true that we are way too quick to compare ourselves to others. I struggle with that a lot. It’s hard not to compare myself to other bloggers. Thanks so much for the reminder and affirmation.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes I agree 100%! Thank you so much for reading 💕

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  11. Sandra Avatar
    Sandra

    This is such an important message to share! Thank you ❤️

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you!! Thank you for reading 🙂

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  12. Syedah Shifa Avatar

    This is something I’ve been struggling with. Loved the last two lines of the post. This was a good read. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      I have been as well!! Thank you so much for reading 🙂

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  13. Lisa Avatar

    Great Message, so so true I think we are all guilty of this, thanks for sharing 🤍

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you so much! 🙂

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  14. Amy Avatar

    I wrote a similar post to this a while back, and I’m so glad that somebody else has done it too. I think we all compare ourselves at some point, but as you said the important thing to remember is what we bring to the table, and what we’re good at. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and we never truly know what’s going on in someone else’s life.

    ‘You are enough’ is something that we should all say to ourselves every now and then.

    Lovely post 💜

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes!!! I am so glad we can get that message out to women like us! Thank you so much for your feedback and for reading 🙂

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  15. da-AL Avatar

    so very true! many tx for the uplift 🙂

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you for reading! 😊

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  16. Hope Chilinda Avatar
    Hope Chilinda

    This is a great post!
    Plus it was posted on my birthday so I have taken this advice pretty seriously.
    Thank you for sharing.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Happy belated birthday! Thank you for reading 😊

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  17. The Imperfect Mom. Avatar

    […] on social media. Amanda has touched on this subject before, and she said it so well in this blog here. She also wrote a good one about Expectations v. […]

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