The Imperfect Mom.

Wow, it feels good to be back on the blog this week!

I took a much needed break from the blog, and the socials. We have had a lot going on these past few months.

A lot of hard decisions were made regarding school, and work. I don’t necessarily regret decisions That I’ve made, but if I could go back and make those changes I probably would.

However, I am learning things about my expectations aren’t necessarily attainable or something I can make a reality. I’m trying to form this “perfect” life that is an Instagram highlight reel.


Having a clean, perfectly organized house was something that I have always strived for. Now don’t get me wrong here, my house is far from it. However, I do think that having a well organized house, definitely helps with having a happy environment. It is so nice that when we go to do a craft or want to play with our Barbies, that I know exactly where to go to find the stuff we need for the activity.

I’ve recently reminded myself that my daughters are not going to remember how organized, or disorganized at the moment, the house was, they’re going to remember how warm and joyful our home was.

I’m also trying to stop comparing myself to other moms or women in general on social media. Amanda has touched on this subject before, and she said it so well in this blog here. She also wrote a good one about Expectations v. Reality!

Let’s face it, our faces (no pun intended) are in our phones and iPads more now then ever. I find myself constantly scrolling through social media saying to myself how I wish I could have all those clothes she has, or I wish I was as skinny as her, or even asking myself why would someone need that many hand bags?!

The world of social media is a wicked one. People post the good, not the bad. I am trying my hardest to not compare myself. I’m taking more breaks from social media (and our blog apparently). I am enjoying the quality time I have with my family.


Being a mom is rewarding and hard as hell. Every mom will tell you that. There is no “perfect” mom. We all have our spectacular mom days, where you are exhausted because you did all the things your kids wanted to do that day, but we also have our imperfect mom days where you sat on the couch watching The Home Edit while they played (argued) for four hours in their room. It’s called balance, ladies and gents!

So, drop the hard expectations you have for yourselves and be the mom you want to be. Create the childhood you want your kids to remember.


I couldn’t leave the blog without wishing you all a Happy & Safe Halloween! It is hands down our favorite holiday. We are too excited! I will post our costume on our Instagram and Facebook, so make sure to follow us on there, but here’s a pumpkin picture!

Thanks for reading, and I’m glad to be back! ❤️

Comments

24 responses to “The Imperfect Mom.”

  1. Kat Akcakanat Avatar

    Such an honest post of truthful observations! Happy Halloween 🎃!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you for reading!

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  2. Shelly DS Avatar

    I’m sure you can hear me clapping from all the way down here! As moms we really need to focus more on loving our little ones than being perfect, on spending time with the family instead of on social media, and on our mental health 😊

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes yes yes 🙌🏻 Thank you for reading ❤️

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  3. Jaya Avendel Avatar

    This is such a refreshing post! It is a familiar feeling to want everything to be neat. In the struggle to be perfect, it is easy to miss out on too much, so I love the honest and healthy reminders you share here about what is really important. 🙂

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you, Jaya! It’s an important reminder for myself! 🥰

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  4. Smelly Socks and Garden Peas Avatar

    Hurrah for being imperfect. Being perfect would be so boring. I’d rather be me.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      I agree!! ❤️

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  5. Lisa's Notebook Avatar

    Welcome back and yes, you’re right, your girls will remember the good times, not how clean the house it, that’s a great tip!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you, Lisa! ❤️

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  6. middleagefanclub Avatar

    Great post! I think your attitude is exactly the right one. Kids won’t remember organisation, but they will remember fun!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you! ❤️

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  7. reagan henderson Avatar
    reagan henderson

    Imperfect motherhood is the standard for these times!

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  8. Abundance of Flavor Avatar
    Abundance of Flavor

    Such a great perspective! Breaks from social media are so necessary to enjoy the real work sometimes. It’s too easy to get caught up on the good parts of people’s lives that they’re showing and strive for only good with no bad for ourselves

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes! Thank you for reading 💕

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  9. brittshedhappens Avatar

    Social media is a double-edged sword, isn’t it? On one hand, it allows us to connect with others and establish friendships and support that we may not have had otherwise. On the other hand, however, it can quickly lead to the toxic habit of comparing oneself to what little we see of others online. Don’t forget – they aren’t sharing the whole story. The smiling images and perfectly clean homes are often staged, they aren’t sharing the 20 min fight to get their child to put on pants or the muddy pawprints that were tracked across that ‘perfectly clean’ floor just the other day.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      I completely agree!!! It can be great, but we also need to realize it’s just a highlight reel! ❤️

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  10. camilavilas Avatar
    camilavilas

    This was a lovely read, and very eye opening as we all sometimes compre ourselves to others! I’m trying to focus on making sure my home is a happy and cozy one rather than perfectly tidy one as well.

    Thanks for sharing!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      I love that! Thank you! ❤️

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  11. Diamond Avatar

    I totally agreed with your sentiment about being a mom being super rewarding yet difficult as all get out 😅 even though I’m not a mom, I practically was a second mom to my baby brother 😆 wonderful post, praying you have a safe holiday season!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you so much! ❤️

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  12. MisterRick Avatar

    Awesome..Welcome back! You have a 1,000 reasons to return. Simply because we luv your work 😃 We understand and its never easy…..#Staystrong👍

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      That’s too sweet! Thank you so much for reading! ❤️

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