Guest Post- As Mom’s, It’s Time To Be Ourselves.

Do you ever wonder what life could be like without comparing yourself to anyone else? 

Well, I think it’s time for us moms to stop trying to live up to everyone else and just be ourselves!

Yup! You heard that right, my friend, just be ourselves. Not our neighbor, not our co-worker, not our mom, sister or best friend and just be ourselves.

Friends, your authentic self is the only one I want to be around.

Your authentic stories are the only stories I want to hear. I want to experience the downright ugly parts of your soul as well as all of your triumphs.

I want to cheer for all of your children’s amazing adventures and goals being reached but also gasp at how awful they have been behaving on a daily basis. 

So can we make a deal as moms? 

Can we stop comparing and rather live our lives as our true selves? Can we stop attempting to live up to all of the online parenting tips, that are often way too hard to attain and allow ourselves to make up our own parenting rules… the rules that work for our family? And rules that take into careful consideration each child living within our unique household.

And please, for our own sanity, can we please stop attempting to live life as a generic woman?

We are all molded, as our own unique selves, but somewhere along the way I think many of us forgot that truth. Or maybe society started to tell us how to behave, how to dress, what our homes should look like and how our children should behave.

But we need to stop this nonsense and just be…

So how do we do this? 

It’s not an easy task, let me tell you. 

But one thing I know is this…if we all support one another it will be much easier to live as our authentic selves. 

Upon a lot of reflection, and there has been a great deal the past year, I have come up with three ways to start living life as our authentic selves.

  1. Take time for reflection: 

Set aside a quiet moment or maybe twenty minutes alone, no distractions, just time with good old fashioned silence.

It’s powerful! Within this time, think about you… not the burnt waffles this morning, the four loads of laundry waiting to be folded, a conference call at noon and how you are in desperate need of a haircut. This is a moment for you to delve deep and remember who you are. What are your dreams? Your goals? Desires? What makes you happy? Truly happy? Have you been hiding anything lately? Pushing it away or numbing the pain? And most importantly how do you love yourself best? 

I found it helpful to listen to my inner soul quietly and reflect, then write out my thoughts on paper. 

My paper was a mess. There were words all over and not organized at all but it was a start. 

The simple act of writing out these thoughts was bringing me back to my true self. 

If I couldn’t recall who I truly was, how was I going to be able to live a life of authenticity?

2. Putting into action a part once lost.

Remember the reflection time where you made a list? Well, now it’s time to choose one or how many you are comfortable with and begin to bring them to light again.

For me, I knew my true self was a writer. It was my passion and the only way I could express myself as the honest woman I wanted to live. So, day by day I started to write more.

At first I began writing down some thoughts, which then lead to poetry… I forgot how much I loved poetry. I eventually realized it was time to take the next step and really let my true self out of the dark and start to share my authentic self, the writer in me. So for me, as scary as it was it meant starting a blog. My friends, for each of us the experience will be different, the time frame will not be the same but one piece will be constant for all of us and that is becoming the women we are meant to be… our true authentic selves.

So I urge you to take action with your list. Don’t let it sit there in a drawer or in the notes on your phone. Take the leap and call into action one or more of the amazing parts of yourself and let it take hold. You may be amazed at how far you will go.

3. Make peace:

Finding one’s self is not always an easy task. For some of us the thoughts of who we truly are may be easy to find, but for others, muddling through the murky waters of our own self can be daunting. I’m confident though, we can do this as long as we make peace with who we truly are as ourselves and love ourselves more than we expect any other person to love us.

It’s time, my friends, to live our lives fully and to the capacity which works for us… not for the comparison of what we see on HGTV or Pinterest, not for the comparison of ourselves and the other mom at the playground and how she parents. It doesn’t mean we are selfish. It doesn’t mean we should feel any mom guilt. It simply means we should be proud to finally show off our true authentic selves and the phenomenal women we are.

So friends, I pinky promise you this… our authentic selves will bring about more light than we ever imagined and what a blessing for our loved ones to experience. They will be blessed beyond measure with a woman who loves herself and radiates it out for the world to see.

Ali Flynn lives in New York with her four teenage daughters and husband. She is excited to share with you the joys and hardships of motherhood with an open heart, laughter and some tears. Ali is a monthly guest contributor for Westchester County Moms and has been seen on Filter Free Parents, Grown and Flown, Today Parents, The Mighty, Her View From Home and His View From Home, where she shares inspirational stories about motherhood while keeping it real.

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20 responses to “Guest Post- As Mom’s, It’s Time To Be Ourselves.”

  1. filippellia Avatar

    Great post! I’m not a mom myself yet but I think those things can be applied to anyone, with to without kids! Taking time with silence does wonders!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes exactly!! I agree, thanks so much for reading


  2. Jaya Avendel Avatar

    I do believe that being ourselves in as many aspects of our life as possible is a wonderful way to teach authenticity and honesty to the people around us. It is never too late to start, so I love these easy ways to step back into the flow of knowing who we are. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      You are so right Jaya! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️

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  3. Fadima Mooneira Avatar

    Good post! Everything the author said is true. Be yourself is one of the keys to a happy life. So be yourself! Everyone is special.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      So agree!! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️


  4. katieemmabeauty Avatar

    Great post and everything said seems even valid to those of us who aren’t mums! It’s so important to just be yourself and not what you think other people think you should be!

    Katie |

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      I thought so too! Definitely goes for everyone. Thanks for reading our guest post ❤️


  5. Tiffany McCullough - Metaphysical Mama Avatar

    Amazing post! As a mother it is so easy to fall into that trap of comparing ourselves to other moms. I have caught myself doing it more than once, unfortunately it is a tricky habit to break. I really love your suggestions, especially the part about “putting into action the part once lost.” Thanks so much for sharing!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      It really is so hard to break, I agree!! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️


  6. thatmamaclub Avatar

    LOVE this post, especially as a mum myself. I can relate to this 100%, I love your suggestions! xx

    Liked by 1 person

    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yess! Same ❤️ thank you for reading our guest post!


  7. lynnmumbingmejia Avatar

    Great guess post! I’m not a mama yet but hopefully soon! I’m sure I’ll experience all these points sooner than later. Thanks so much for sharing xx

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yes definitely!! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️

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  8. agirlwithaview1 Avatar

    Great post – I agree with everything you said even though I’m not a mum. Thank you for sharing.

    Tash – A Girl with a View

    Liked by 1 person

    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      So great! Thank you for reading


  9. Siobhan (@veganbabelife) Avatar

    I don’t have children in the traditional sense but I think I can still take a lot from this. Siobhan ♡ | Vegan Babe Life

    Liked by 1 person

    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      So glad! Thank you for reading our guest post ❤️

      Liked by 1 person

  10. Giulia Avatar

    Very honest, and about time someone said this to moms. As a woman of forty who is only now expecting her first child, I often looked at other women who were mothers and thought, what the hell are you doing?! Live your life your way.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Awe so awesome for you! Congratulations! Yessss, you are so right. Thank you for reading ❤️

      Liked by 1 person

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