6 Rookie Mistakes New Moms Make.

Becoming a mom was the best/scariest experience! Being a first time mom myself I know just how scary it can be not knowing anything.

I’m here to give you a few tips today on the mistakes I’ve made as a new mom in hopes it will help all you other mamas out there!

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Believing everything you hear.

I can’t even tell you how much advice you will get while you are pregnant or a brand new mom.

Some of it is fantastic but then there’s the horror stories and the snarky comments.

Trust me when I say, you just can’t believe everything you hear. Every parent has a different experience with parenthood. Every birth is different.

Most of your anxiety comes from listening to others and your own mind so relax mama, you’ll be fine!

Not napping while the baby naps.

I was notorious for this. I felt like I needed to get EVERYTHING done while the baby napped but you don’t.

You really, really don’t!

Take that nap, or just take time for yourself when your baby naps. It’s so important and you will appreciate it in the long run!

Comparing your baby or yourself to others.

Just don’t do it. Nothing good will come of it. Each baby goes at its own pace and that’s perfectly fine. Just because your friends baby is walking at 8 months, doesn’t mean your baby won’t be up and running around soon!

So many women I know were having babies when I had my son and I felt myself comparing and it was the worst thing I could ever do.

Just because one mom looks like a superhero by getting everything done, doesn’t mean she’s not exhausted and feeling as defeated as you are at times.

Don’t compare!

Ignoring your spouse.

I feel like the easiest thing as a new mom is to get wrapped up in the baby, it’s just the most natural reaction to motherhood.

But don’t get so wrapped up that you ignore your spouse, the one who helped create this beautiful tiny human. Yess they might seem annoying because they get out of the house daily or get to sleep more but they are feeling overwhelmed too so lean on each other.

Communicate and be kind to each other.

Take time for yourself.

Even if it’s just an hour at your favorite store or 30 minutes reading a book. Or even a nice long hot shower.

Do it.

Take time for yourself as much as you can to recharge, to clear your mind, to breath.

You’ll be a better mom, you’ll feel better and you just need to do it.

Ask for help.

As much as you want to, you can’t do everything. It’s impossible.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Having a support system will be the best thing for you and your family.

Whether it’s meals being dropped off or maybe just an extra hand with laundry or dishes. The best thing I ever learned as a first time mom is definitely not to be afraid to ask for help when you need it!


I hope this helped you out mamas! And if you are a seasoned mom please feel free to leave advice in the comments below!

Always love hearing others experiences since everyone’s is always so different ❤️

Comments

41 responses to “6 Rookie Mistakes New Moms Make.”

  1. CristinaR Avatar

    I am not a mum yet, but can just imagine how you must feel when you want to do everything while the baby naps or not taking the time for yourself. Asking for help I think it’s the greatest as well as stop comparing yourself to others, we are all on a different path. Thank you for sharing x

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yesss!! There’s so much to it! Thank you for reading ❤️❤️

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  2. Giulia Avatar

    I’ve managed to avoid all of the “advice” since I’m at home instead of at work and out and about, but my mother in law looked shocked when I told her I wasn’t feeling the baby move at 16 weeks. I guess she did. And after that, my husband kept asking me if I felt the baby. I kept explaining, it’s still early not everyone feels the baby right now though you might. Luckily this didn’t last long but I was annoyed.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      YES! Same with me! I didn’t feel my son until 20 weeks!!! Everyone is so different with pregnancy’s so I had to include the avoid the advice!! Lol

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  3. Jaya Avendel Avatar

    It is tough to know what to expect when you have your first baby, unless you have stayed for half a year with a sibling who has just had a baby, but even then you never really know until you are in the ‘mum’ shoes. These days reading some of the amazing books and blogs leading up to the birth is a great way to learn a little before you start learning a lot.
    Thanks for sharing! 🙂

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Oh definitely! Books and blogs are such great help, for sure helped me. Thanks so much for reading!

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  4. Shyla Elza Avatar
    Shyla Elza

    Being a new mom is so absolutely difficult and as your kids get older its easy to forget how helpless you felt during that time. I know that I let myself get so behind on sleep at one point with my son after he was born. Asking for help is not a weakness but it will help you be able to be there as a better mother in the end. This is all such good advice.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you so much!! I got so behind on sleep as well it was awful! You almost don’t even feel human. So happy you enjoyed!

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  5. nortoncharity Avatar
    nortoncharity

    I’m not a mom but I could see how these mistakes are easily made. Thanks so much for sharing this post.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you for reading!!❤️

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  6. Lisa's Notebook Avatar

    I was guilty of every single one of these mistakes – because the fear of being handed this tiny lifeform and screwing it up drove everything else from my mind! Great tips though thank you for sharing 🙂

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Same with me!! It’s all you think about. Thank you so much for reading ❤️

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  7. filippellia Avatar
    filippellia

    Loved this post! I never thought about the “ignoring your spouse” one! Never thought that would happen but I guess it can. Thanks for sharing these!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yesss! It’s so easy to do. You get so wrapped up in everything you don’t even realize it sometimes. Thank you for reading! ❤️

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  8. Shelly DS Avatar

    I was guilty of all of these and it landed me in a psychiatrist’s office. It really is important to keep up with rest and still be in tune with your partner, otherwise you will lose your mind. Having a baby is difficult but it should be a special experience – not feel like an imposter turned your world upside down. Great post!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yesss I agree 100%!!! Thank you so much for reading, I’m glad you can relate ❤️

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  9. Claire Chircop Avatar
    Claire Chircop

    Yes to all of these! I think it’s so difficult as parents not to get swept up in the ‘do this, don’t do that’s’ that we often hear when we first become parents. It’s hard to know what to do for the best, when you have little to no clue & you’re running on 4 hours sleep! I’m pregnant with our second now, so hopefully my experience this time around will be filled with a little less self doubt.
    Claire.X
    http://www.clairemac.co.uk

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yess to everything you said!! Let me know if it gets easier haha! We are thinking of trying for our second soon so I’m hoping I’m a little more at ease in the newborn stage the second time around! Thanks for reading ❤️

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  10. lynnmumbingmejia Avatar
    lynnmumbingmejia

    Love this! Great tips for new moms! I’ll keep these in mind once I have a little one xx

    Lynn | http://www.lynnmumbingmejia.com

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thanks so much for reading ❤️

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  11. Brooke Ressell Avatar

    So true! I feel like you peeked into my life as a new mom when you wrote this. I made all of the rookie mistakes. By my second baby a year later, I was a total pro though.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yess!! I’m hoping by our second the anxiety and everything will be a little more at ease! ❤️

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  12. Christina Avatar

    I definitely agree with all of these! Social media definitely makes the comparisons even harder, as you’re usually only seeing everyone at their best.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yesss so true!!! You read my mind completely ❤️

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  13. Angie Liesdonk Avatar
    Angie Liesdonk

    These are all great tips and I recognize myself in every one of them. I learned most of them by now, but this should be bookmarked by every mom to be

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Thank you so much!! I agree

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  14. Rebekah Charles Avatar

    Wonderful post. I am not a mom yet, but I know how overwhelming it can be for new moms as I saw my Godchildren mom go through the anxieties of expecting their first child.

    People think that they are helping with their opinions and suggestions and of course it’s all good intentions, but what they don’t understand is how it creates more anxiety and confusion more than anything else.

    Thanks for sharing.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yesss girl! You get it! Thank you so much for reading ❤️

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  15. Tiffany McCullough - Metaphysical Mama Avatar

    It’s been a long time since I was a new mom. My oldest is 25 and my youngest is 4 and even though I’ve been doing this for a while, people still feel the need to give advice and point out what I’m doing wrong. The best thing any mom can do is smile, nod and then ignore them. Every parent and child is different, there’s not one right way to parent. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yesss 100% agree!!! Thank you so much for reading ❤️

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  16. Juliana Avatar

    Totally love this because I went through exactly the same thing! LOL. Especially with my firstborn, I tried to be Captain Momvel and it was shagged to the max.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Same here girl! So glad you relate. Thanks so much for reading ❤️

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  17. mamarella Avatar

    Not napping when the baby is was and still is one of my biggest struggles! I feel like I have so much to do that I can’t nap!

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Same with me! I still never nap either 🤣🤣

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  18. aspoonfulofvanilla Avatar
    aspoonfulofvanilla

    This is such a great post. I don’t have children myself but have friends/relatives who have new babies and I have found a lot of people like to make comments. Things like ‘you’re not holding the baby properly,’ ‘are you sure they’re not hungry,’ ‘you have far to many clothes on them they’ll be too warm’ and it bugs me so much. Mainly because I don’t understand why everyone thinks they have to comment on everything new parents do. They are already probably exhausted, emotional and a little overwhelmed. I try my best to remind them that they are doing a great job and I am always here to drop of some baking, pick up things from the supermarket if they don’t have time/forget something and I am always here if they want to chat.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Yessssss!!! You are amazing! Would love to have a friend just like that❤️ thanks so much!

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  19. bournemouthgirl Avatar

    I am not a mom yet. But I can’t wait to be a mum. Thank you for sharing these.

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Awe! You’re so welcome ❤️

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  20. Carly Caracciolo Avatar

    You nailed this post! ❤

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    1. quirkymoms486 Avatar

      Awe, thank you so much!

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